How to Succeed: True Friendships!
Proverbs 18:24, “A man that has friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother.” True friendship is when two people are willing to give a little of themselves to the other individual. The level of friendship a person gets is based on the level of friendship they give in return.
The characteristics of a “good friendship” are:
- Time; and
Many people are not willing to give these characteristics to a “true friendship”. The main reason for this is that many people don’t feel comfortable letting others into their “private space”. Many people are “relationally impaired” which means it is hard for them to make and build “true friendships”.
Here are some truths about people who are afraid of building and growing “true friendships”:
- Two relationally impaired people cannot help each other solve their problems. They will make the problems worst.
- People in the fast lane of success only build friendships with people who can offer them something. Many people only want you in their life if you can provide them with something that is valuable to them.
- When one becomes less needy, people are more willing to become your friend. Some people have issues of their own and do not want to resolve the issues or problems of someone else.
Here are a few ways to make yourself more accessible to build “strong friendships”:
- Spend more time reading the Bible and praying to get a better understanding of God. If you let God take lead in your life, He will ensure to bring the right people into your life who will add value to it, and you in turn, will add value to their life.
- Let God be the one to tell you what you are worth and who you are. You do not need anyone to let you know what your self-worth is.
- Spending quality time with God will make you whole spiritually and emotionally. A friendship with God is the best thing to have.
- Spending time with God will cause you to enjoy your own company, in turn, you will be able to offer more to others. Sometimes spending quality time with yourself is the best medicine.
Donya Zimmerman is a business consultant, mediator, and legal professional with over ten years of experience. She is owner of Family & Community Mediation and Business Consulting (FACMBC) based in Baltimore, Maryland and has been in business since 2013. Services provided by FACMBC: Mediation and Conflict Resolution Services; Business Registration Assistance (Limited Liability Company, Corporation, S-Corp, Limited Liability Partnership, etc.); Business Plan Drafting Assistance; Business Certification Assistance (MBE, WOSB, 8A, 501(c) (3), Hub Zone, etc.); and Business Organization Assistance. She is also a contributing writer to the Maryland Daily Examiner Newspaper. Contact information: firstname.lastname@example.org; www.facebook.com/FACMBC; www.twitter.com/FACMBC; https://dzimmerman36.wordpress.com; http://www.linkedin.com/in/dzbusconsultantandmediator