Building strong relationships in one’s personal life and business life are an important key to success in life. God did not create us to be alone or live a lonely existence. God created us to have strong and wonderful relationships with our fellow men and women. God created Adam, then He created Eve, from Adam’s rib, to be his helpmate in life. No matter your marital status in life: single, married, divorced, or widowed, God created you to have fellowship with your fellow man or woman. Life is too short to not enjoy the company and companionship of others.
Ecc. 9:4 “For to him that is joined to all the living there is hope.” Ecc. 9:9 “Live joyfully with the wife whom thou loves all the days of the life of thy vanity.” The Bible has many other verses in it that emphasis the importance of having close relationships with each other. Marriage is the most awesome relationship you can have with another human being, but not everyone is married. Not everyone is meant to be married and no one should stay in a marriage that is not healthy for them or the other person. Two main causes of divorce are financial stress and pornography. When we fail to treat one another tenderly, graciously, lovingly, considerably, and with respect, the plane we’re flying in together takes a nose drive. A neglected spouse or significant other is vulnerable to anyone that comes along. One should be happy with what they have at home because the grass is not always greener on the other side. The “80/20 Rule” means you love the 80% your partner has to offer you, and the 20% you do not like about your mate should not matter. Believe me I am sure your mate has some things that they do not like about you. If God’s Word doesn’t work in your home and your marriage, then it won’t work anywhere else. An “instrument-rated Christian” understands the secret of having a good marriage is not just in finding the right person-but in becoming the right person. It can only happen when you make the daily commitment to living by the principles of God’s Word and demonstrating the fruits of the Spirit. For a happy and successful marriage, start tending to the home fires.
In your business relationships, it is extremely important to build trust and confidence in your business partner, and to feel a level of trust and confidence in your business partner, as well. Some business relationships will only last for a short while and others will last a lifetime. To have a successful business relationship with someone else you must provide the individual with a sense of need and confidence. In business relationships, you want to bring out the “greatness” in each person and condition them for greatness. No business relationship should just be built on what can I get out of the person or what can they get out of me. It should be a mutual understanding that each partner shall bring out the best in each other. We will make each other feel wanted, needed, appreciated, and a star in our own right. In business relationships, each individual should be willing to empower each other and build each other up. Also, business relationships should help each other with figuring out what drives us and how that drive can be beneficial to our success in life.
I learned in a workshop given by Dave Elliott at the “Success in the City Expo” on 03/10/14 the following acronym “SERV-UP” in building successful relationships on a personal and business level.
S= service/contribution to others;
E=expansion/growth (happiness is about progress);
R=relationships (you need love and connection to others)
V=value or significance (must know your personal value and self-worth)
U=unpredictability (you need variety in your relationships to keep them strong)
P=predictability (you need consistency in your relationships to keep them strong)
Our personal relationships and business relationships will only be as successful as they can be based on how we work at them, how we treat the other individual in the relationship, and how much we value those relationships.
Donya Zimmerman is a business consultant, mediator, and legal professional with over ten years of experience. She is owner of Family & Community Mediation and Business Consulting based in Baltimore, Maryland and has been in business since 2013. Contact information: firstname.lastname@example.org, www.facebook.com/FACMBC, https://twitter.com/FACMBC and https://dzimmerman36.wordpress.com.